You will find a variety of answers to your question. We believe that God gives us a lot of freedom in deciding who we will marry. Some would say that their marriage was 'made in heaven,' meaning that God led them to each other. Others would say that every marriage is 'made in heaven,' meaning that everyone who gets married has been brought together by God. Who can say? In some areas of life, the ways of the Lord are beyond finding out. What we can say is that both parties ought to feel total peace about who they are marrying and that the relationship ought to be an enhancement to their spiritual lives and not a detriment. Hope that helps.