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Is there a problem with public beaches?

Submitted: 12/30/2010
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Question: I refuse to go to a populated area of a beach with my husband, who is also born again. He goes without me. I find this very hurtful and disrespectful to me personally and to our marriage. He thinks it is all about my insecurites and I need to get over it. I am reminded of the scripture that says, he that looks upon a woman to lust after her, hath committed adultery in his heart. How can my husband not commit adultery in his heart when other women are exposing so much flesh? Am I just insecure or is there truly a holiness issue here?

Answer: We agree with you that there is a significant holiness issue with being surrounded by women who are clad in the skimpiest of outfits. Have you asked him directly how he avoids entertaining lustful thoughts? Since he is your head, you may not be able to stop him from doing this, but perhaps he would be open to a heartfelt appeal based on the fact that it hurts you deeply when he does it. If that falls on deaf ears, then we would say that you have more than a holiness problem; you have a marital problem.