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Question of marriage vs. singleness?

Submitted: 4/11/2008
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Question: When we get to heaven will the institution of marriage have ceased? I am paraphrasing, but Paul said that the time that they be married will be as if they were not. And I believe it was somewhere in Luke where Jesus said that those worthy of the resurrection are neither married nor given to marriage. I believe God has dealt with me to the point that I want to be holy in body and spirit and I want to attend to the Lord without distraction, so I desire to remain single until he comes for his church. However, people, even in the church, think marriage is the most important thing in one's life, so much so that I am constantly asked when am I going to get married. Even if I were considering marriage I would not entertain the thought of marrying someone who is not well established in the apostolic faith. However, in my situation it is obvious that there are no potential prospects. I guess I am at that age where women, especially in some cultures, are expected to already be married and have children. It can be a great pressure for some. I am just wondering what your stance on marriage and singleness is and why do even saved people find it strange that a person would want to remain single for their Lord? Also, why do some societies measure a person's worth and happiness on marriage? I mean even Paul said it were better that we remain as he anyway :) Thank you for your time and God bless you!!

Answer: To us, the striking difference between the married person and the single person is summed up in the following verses: 'He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord--how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world--how he may please his wife' (1 Corinthians 7:32-33). We encourage you not to allow the opinions of others to weigh heavily upon you. Your choice is yours to make; no one else's. It really doesn't matter what other people think. To those who ask you for an explanation, you can simply answer, 'This is the choice I have made and I feel comfortable with it.' What more needs to be said? We commend you for your decision to give the entirety of your time and energy to the Lord.